Archives for January 2014

Women opt for divorce 2 out of 3 times

I heard an interesting statement recently, from a psychologist I know. Not only do women choose divorce 66% of the time over men, but they view their husbands very differently, throughout and after. “Women, who are more relational, view their husbands as chapters in their lives, and can move on more easily. Men have a harder time in divorces–they see the whole book as about their wives, and therefore now have to go and get a whole new story.”

This would explain a lot of the other stats on men and the fallout of divorce. Peter Pan Syndrome is just the beginning.

God, help us.

Yes drill sergeant

My twisted-side ego is like a drill sergeant but one that wants me to fail. It screams in my face when I screw up, fall down, question things.

Real drill sergeants, however, ultimately want you to succeed…or quit.

But wait, maybe that negative side of me is harassing me in order to help me succeed in the end. Could it be that there is a nobler purpose in that berating, negative psyche?

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Bear with me now…

How could something from me want me to fail? Maybe this thing is EXACTLY like a drill sergeant. Maybe I should just answer “yes drill sergeant!”

You freakin idiot! Go faster! “Sir, yessir!”

Look what you did, Lewis! Stop it or you’ll ruin everything! “Sir, yessir!”


I think I heard Titus once say that anxiety is good because that’s how the rent gets paid.



Sin in our Role and Identity

I came across this author’s critique of Pope Francis saying that we humans are sinners.

The headline pulled me in as ridiculous, because it’s pretty basic, fundamental doctrinal stuff. Good luck trying to blame the pope for that.

God reached out to us because He Loves us, not because He owed us one.

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Feminism: Blaming isn’t Helping

I saw this comment on Huffington Post and I’m glad it ties up the problem so succinctly. It’s in response to Elisabeth Hasselbeck’s question to Nick Adams about men in decline because of feminism.

“How, specifically, are men not allowed to “be manly”? Not allowed to get away with rape? Not allowed to beat up other men without being arrested? What are the benchmarks here….Are men not being allowed to play football? Hunt? Curse? Drink beer? Good grief. Tell us, Elisabeth – how are our men “less masculine”. Because I see men working hard every day. Being good husbands, fathers, and friends. They’re providing for their families. They’re always learning new technology. They’re traveling. They’re reading, creating, being imaginative. They’re enjoying life. So…tell us. How are they “not masculine’?”

We’re men, we’re men in tights

Here would be my response to Phyllis T (if I wanted to sign up for Huff Post, which I don’t):

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False dichotomy of science and humanities

Cognitions and Conceptions

Incorrigibly interrelated

I like to talk about and further my understanding of the dialogue between humanities and science. I came across this on Andrew Sullivan’s Dish and it gave me pause.

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Thoughts on Sunday

Bartender please
Fill my glass for me
With the wine you gave Jesus that set him free
After three days in the ground

Bartender you see
The wine that’s drinking me
Came from the vine that strung Judas from the devil’s tree
It’s roots deep, deep in the ground

I’m on bended knee
Father, please

Dave, Bartender, with an atypical introduction

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Profound Cries of Joy and Sorrow

Every rose has thorns


I was reading Ezra today and these words leaped off the page at me:

(Ch. 3) 11 And they sang responsively, praising and giving thanks to the Lord,

“For he is good,
for his steadfast love endures forever toward Israel.”

And all the people shouted with a great shout when they praised the Lord, because the foundation of the house of the Lord was laid. 12 But many of the priests and Levites and heads of fathers’ houses, old men who had seen the first house, wept with a loud voice when they saw the foundation of this house being laid, though many shouted aloud for joy, 13 so that the people could not distinguish the sound of the joyful shout from the sound of the people’s weeping, for the people shouted with a great shout, and the sound was heard far away.

I could write pages and pages about these last two verses, but I will just write a few thoughts.

[Context note: these are the Jews coming back to their land after a few generations of captivity in exile. They return from Persia to rebuild the city, starting with the temple. The central role the temple played in their lives and their relationship with their God defined them as a people somewhere in their core.]

Knowing this, it makes perfect sense that the young who had heard all these stories about their people and their past would rejoice at the thrill of rebuilding. Juxtapositionally, the older generations are weeping because they have a relationship with the temple from the past and have personally suffered the loss in some way–they know what the former glory of the temple was and mourn the loss of that.

All of this mixed together is life. All of this mixed together is what it is like to be in relationship with someone…with God…to be a person of faith…to strive for what is good and not necessarily what is easy or safe.

I suppose that journeying with God…with the Good…with anything meaningful…will entail this mix of joy and sorrow. I suspect it doesn’t have to be this way. It just happens to be.

“I was the lion who forced you to join with Aravis. I was the cat who comforted you among the houses of the dead. I was the lion who drove the jackals from you while you slept. I was the lion who gave the horses the new strength of fear for the last mill so that you should reach King Lune in time. And I was the lion you do not remember who pushed the boat in which you lay, a child near death, so that it came to shore where a man sat, wakeful at midnight, to receive you.”
― C.S. LewisThe Chronicles of Narnia – the Horse and His boy

Divine Command Theorists are not just moral sheep

I like this guy’s point on the atheist’s charge that divine command theory believers are childish in their morality. Though I don’t subscribe to it myself, per se, it has more going for it.

“What should I do about claiming X on my taxes?”
“Well, what did God say to do?”
“I don’t know, but he said not to lie.”
“There ya go.”
“Can you be more specific?”

Maybe if it were merely that simple, it would be a little childish. I think the atheist that holds this view is probably motivated by a fear of the injustice and tyranny that is justified in the name of a religion, and I empathize with that.

But it isn’t that simple. There are lots of tiers to moral inquiries based on theological traditions. Which text is trustworthy? How is it interpreted correctly? Are we applying it right? What about lack of specificity?

I don’t see it being a whole lot different than basing morality in an interpreted document like The Constitution. Just gives it different objective grounding. The existence of that grounding is another matter.


Sleep: done!
Give thanks: done!
Affirmations: done!
Reading: Choose Greatness. Done!
Exercise: done!
Day vertical: F—ING DONE!