Archives for August 2013

Letting go completely

Giving up control at the right moments is necessary for succeeding

In order to be successful in skiing, you have to get through and get over that moment where you completely give up control to gravity, and let the force of nature take you.

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La Boulange at Starbucks


Prepare yourselves for a scrumdibblyunctious revolution….

Beating the crap out of goals

Woohoo! I blasted my goal of working out 45 minutes today with resistance, cardio, and stretching!

A super leveraging technique I used: I set the goal on the bike, and then covered up the display! With a good motivating book no less! When the peaks came, I just kept pushing and reading trying to keep my mind off the burn and how long it was taking.


Don't worry about the numbers!

Beating the crap out of goals–set the numbers, but don’t focus on them

Fight to Live

“We live to fight another day.”

Living to Fight, to Live

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This old expression makes sense if your purpose is to fight. When it’s us-against-them time and your objective is to win, this gives you reason to rejoice. But what if you are fighting for something else?



I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone say, “We fight to live another day.”



Distortion 7: Emotional Reasoning

[Continuing my series on some of David Burns cognitive distortions. It helps me to really see them for what they are and how I apply them to my thinking. Hopefully you may have a “me too!” moment. See more here.]


I think one’s path is incorrigibly set by whether they can use this skill or not: to be able to sort out what’s actually happening from what feels (or looks) like is happening.


[d] Delusions 0f Grandeur -  Murder Self Pity (2012)

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How to find your perfect drink at Starbucks

Caffeine withdrawal, and understanding tall/grande/venti, can cause headaches There’s no substitute for a well-placed beverage in your day; even sweeter when you don’t get one often. Somewhere out there lies that perfect drink at Starbucks. But what if you don’t know what to order with that huge menu? Or if you don’t know how to order with all that particular verbiage? Don’t worry about it. In this post, I’ll give you 4 decision-makers that will help you hone in on your perfect drink in 10 seconds or less. [Read more…]

Camping with a toddler is a GO!

I was blessed to go camping with my family–my wife and son–this past weekend. I want to highlight this great little getaway and my joy in being with them. Also, I ignored a warning against camping with a toddler (specifically a 2-year-old), and I’m glad I did.


Fire! I have made fire!

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How To Not Trip Over Your Own Survival Mechanisms

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Does thinking make you tired?

I wish that I could energize and focus myself by thinking and (relatedly) by reading. I wish I could set my mind to something and just GO but I find that focus and a state of wakefulness are kind of like trying to keep a spinning top from falling off the sides of a coffee table. You have to herd that mess. Sddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddd

(See what I mean?!?! I’m writing late at night and while thinking about the impact of this last statement, I nodded off, fingers barely poised above the home row—except for the heavy ‘d’ finger.) [Read more…]

Blup blups

“Dada! Blup blups!”

When he has a blup in is hand, he wields it with deadly force.

When he has a blup in is hand, he wields it with deadly force.

This is perhaps my newest favorite of my son’s phraseology. It means golf clubs (or flip flops, or bathtub, depending on the context.)

For a long time now, I have been writing down all of his verbiage to develop a personal lexicon for those who wish to speak with him. It’s helpful for family and babysitters, but mostly, I just treasure it. I love adding everything I hear to it and it’s getting quite impressive. By my count my son regularly uses at least 175 words/phrases. I don’t know where that is on the bell-curve, but people are often impressed how well he uses language and expresses things. He conveys emotions and ideas well, even at two years of age and without the articulation.

In my experience, a lot of parents are hyper-concerned about the language and cognitive abilities of their toddlers. Especially with boys.

He’s struggling with language so we’re putting him in speech therapy.
Me: How old is he?
Sixteen months.
Me: [Pause] Give him time.

I tell all of them pretty much the same thing: don’t worry. I’ve worked with children with officially diagnosed delays, like autism; that’s a different situation, and there’s a lot of hope with those. But every child is different, and the most important thing is guarding their environment (which parents CAN do something about) and giving them a place to learn well, rather than directing their language (which parents really CAN’T do much about.)

For example, challenge them to speak so that they really get what they want. When my son just whines for something, I tell him clearly, “I don’t know what you want. Tell me. Try to use words.” He virtually always makes a go for it.

Maybe I’ll share more of his words as time goes along.

Jim Henson on Attitude

Jim Henson on Attitude

Sometimes you read something that hits your Truth button like a savage blow to the solar plexus. This is one of those things. (Thank you to my wife for sharing it on her timeline. 😉 )